Why I Am LGBTQIA+, Kink, Poly, and Diverse Sexuality Affirming

Everyone deserves to be met where they are, with respect and curiosity rather than judgment. In my work and my life, I strive to provide a space where people of all genders, sexualities, and identities can explore who they truly are without fear of shaming or dismissal.

We live in a world where nearly everyone is touched, directly or indirectly, by someone in the LGBTQIA+ community. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a coworker, or a neighbor, these connections remind us that diversity in identity is a human experience. Just as we would feel resentment if someone forced us into a role we didn’t want, like being a doctor when we didn’t want that path, so too does dismissing someone’s gender or sexual identity create harm.

I personally have had experiences with gender identity that illustrate this. As a cisgender female, I once identified as male temporarily so I could join a men’s sports team and prevent them from forfeiting a game. That was a situational choice, not a lifelong identity. I also grew up as a tomboy, but I still identify as female. Not everyone’s journey looks like mine. Many people have known inside who they are for a long time and are only now finding the courage to express it authentically. It’s important to recognize that their experiences are valid, even if they differ from our own.

If you are curious about someone’s experience, ask with care. If you’re not ready to understand, at least refrain from shaming comments. My role is not to change anyone; it’s to provide a safe space where people can explore and affirm their identities. I approach this same philosophy with clients exploring faith. I have worked with atheists, agnostics, Christians, Buddhists, Mormons, Muslims, Wiccans, Pagans, and people who identify with nature and science. I meet each person where they are, asking if and how faith plays a role in their lives and exploring it only as they wish.

Affirmation and safety extend beyond identity and belief. Size, socioeconomic status, ability, race, ethnicity, and many other factors can all be sources of discrimination. Comments meant to “motivate,” like telling an overweight person to “keep it up” while running, can be belittling rather than inspiring. Parents may not always understand their children, especially as the world changes and new identities emerge, but misunderstanding is not a reason to try to change someone. Children and adults alike need guidance, curiosity, and support, not shame.

Discrimination takes many forms, and safety is a right, not a privilege. Whether it’s navigating differences in sexuality, gender identity, faith, ability, size, or financial circumstances, everyone deserves to feel seen and respected. In my work, I am committed to being a safe, affirming presence. My goal is simple: to meet you where you are, to honor your experiences, and to provide space for you to be yourself. One person at a time. One conversation at a time.