

Noticing Effort Again: A Couples Reset for Breaking the Negative Cycle
How to Use This as a 7‑Day Reset Before You Begin This exercise is designed to be completed between sessions over the course of one week. Day 1: Start With Yourself On the first day, your only task is to observe your own behavior. This helps reduce defensiveness, increase accountability, and soften the negative lens before focusing on your partner. You are not doing this to judge yourself. You are doing this to notice effort. Days 2-7: Shift to Observing Your Partner For the
Jessica Elliott
1 day ago5 min read


Taking a Break During Conflict: A Step-by-Step Guide for Couples
Taking a Break During Conflict Takes Practice Conflict is natural in relationships but knowing when and how to take a break can prevent harm and promote respect for one another. Here's a structured approach for recognizing when to step away and how to return productively. 1. Recognize Signs of Emotional Flooding Emotional flooding occurs when the nervous system is overwhelmed. These are common signs: Fight : You're verbally aggressive, repeating yourself, or feel unheard. Ex
Jessica Elliott
Dec 22 min read
